How can I be nice to you today??

How can I be nice to you today? I heard an author say this on Oprah. It caught my attention and I love the way it sounds, so much that it inspired me to write this blog.

My single hood seems to be on-going and at times I feel like it will never end but then something happens and somehow I believe again.

With having a steady person of interest in my life, I come across areas of relationshipness that I want to work on.

I have spent the last 2 years working on myself. I made a promised that I would not commit or allow someone else to commit to me if I wasn't a whole and conscious woman nor will accept that from someone else. 

What benefit would I be if I werestill harboring fear from previous relationships gone wrong, mistakes I've made, they've made and not practicing the art of forgiveness? Not very beneficial at all. I'm still wonderful in essence but I needed work and I'm never going to be perfect but I know I will make a fantastic life partner.

I have so much to offer, I astound myself. I'm rooting for the person who wins my heart because it's really a very special place to be and I want to wake up and say, how can I be nice to you today when I'm pissed off at him for something he did or when the flame dies down and you have to put forth effort and do those things you don't want to do... or how about, HATE doing. LOL

The errors of my ways lies in my wanting to give up when someone did not measure up or when they didn't show promise right away. Yes that's how I've been til this very day, but I've made a decision to not do that. I've been accepting and non-judgmental in so many areas, I think I can conquer this. I have an issue with someone who is WASTING MY TIME. I guess it's a fear or I can chalk it up to just not liking it. Don't waste my time.

I actually enjoy the process of getting to know someone and taking our time, it's so fun and beautiful. Learning the things about them that didn't come with a question. Sharing life stories, eating good food, walking around, going bike riding, sitting in the house in the dark lying on the floor with your legs intertwined, and the only light is the moon light and street lights shining through the window... listening to music and not saying anything and every now and then a kiss on the shoulder or hand or cheek or where ever is placed, running your fingers across his head, just some romantic gestures and things that are precious. I know I'm going a little off subject but that creates a physical connection that doesn't always involve sex. Sex, that's easy and can be done with anyone, anywhere, at anytime... but you can't reach down into the depths of someone and feel their love and connect with their inner peace, embrace their spirit.

To have some one who gets it and who is just as willing to get it right... meaning whose list of goals for the day has "How can I be nice to her/him today?"  ..... MAN! that's priceless.

Let's go on a date!!!

How I see me may not be how you see me...

I have been on the natural hair journey for the past 4 years and finally all of the relaxer is gone, never to return.

When I say natural, I mean without chemicals, perms/relaxers, but using organic and real natural ingredients. I still wear braids and I will wear a weave, but my real hair is natural and actually more healthier.

 

My natural hair has indeed been a challenge. I was so used to straight hair, easy to comb thru, washing it took like 10 minutes...NOW... no I have come to terms that, that isn't how my hair works and I'm okay with that.

Washing: Literally takes me about 30 - 45 minutes and I have to do it in the shower. I have to part my hair in sections of 4-6 to prevent a massive tangling situation.

THIS IS NOT ME >>>

Drying: Same thing....or I've let it air dry before.

Since I'm new to the natural hair world, I don't have a style that I like yet so I just press it out, grease it up. My hair is a thirst bucket for oil and stuff, it will suck every bit until it's dry.

I'll just throw it in a ponytail, claw or a braid. Oh yeah, if there's a hint of moisture in the air...the press out is gone.

Ever heard of "Shrinkage"...yes I have that. My hair is very kinky and can be course if I slack on my oiling it... that's when your hair does this (below). When it's wet and then dried, it's short but when you straighten it out, it's almost 75% longer than it's actual length. DO NOT be deceived by Shrinkage.

I have to say that going natural is the most liberating thing I've ever done for my appearance, for my pride, for my health, my self worth. It feel's good not to conform. I feel much more beautiful being myself and there are women who are in the same boat and we love who we are.

I do highly encourage women to put down the creamy crack, yes it makes our hair manageable, but it strips it of it's natural oils and protein (That's Not Good) I know, I did it for almost 20 years + it's not good for your health.  I did holistic research for many years and honestly if you can't eat it, it doesn't belong on your skin/ scalp/hair....IJS. That's in another life time for many people. You can use natural products that are much more healthier.





* Love this: I wish you could see your beauty from my view....it's breathtaking.

Don't sleep on Anne Shirley

I watch this every single morning while I'm getting ready for work and I love it!


Anne of Green Gables

It's so refreshing

:-)

Things You Might Not Know About Me

Whats your middle name? TaNae ..ha ha 

How big is your bed? Queen

What are you listening to right now? Kool and the Gang

What are the last 4 digits in your cellphone number? Uhmm NO!

What was the last thing you ate? Chicken Gyro salad

Last person you hugged? My Aunt Tracy

How is the weather right now? Beautiful  - 86 degrees

Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? One of my tenants

What is the first thing u notice in the opposite sex? Height

Favorite type of Food. Greek/Sushi/Indian/Jamaican/Cuban

Do you want children? Absolutely

Do you drink? water? Yes  Wine? Yes

Ever get so drunk you don't remember the entire night? No

Hair color? Brown

Eye colour? Brown

Do you wear contacts/glasses? Yes, I wear both

Favorite holiday? Thanksgiving...Family/Food/Laughter - can't beat that!

Favorite Season? Summer...I'm from Cali, the Sun is all I know.

Have you ever cried over a girl/boy? Oh man have I ....balling crying, can't get out of bed.

Last Movie you Watched? Frankie and Alice starring Halle Berry

What books are you reading? Fifty Shades Darker and getting ready to buy my new book FEAR by Thich Nhat Hanh

Piercings? Yes (3) in each ear...used to have my nose pierced but I'm out with the old.

Favorite Movie? Shag The Movie (chic Flick)

Favorite college football Team? Don't have one

What were you doing before filling this out? On my way home

Any pets? No pets  

Dogs or cats? Nope...allergic to cats

Favorite Flower? Love orchids

Have you ever loved someone? Most definitely

Who would you like to see right now? My nephew Emmett, I've only seen him once

Have you ever fired a gun? yes ...gun range

Do you like to travel by plane? I love flying

Right-handed or Left-handed? right

If you could go to any place right now where would you go? Almafie Coast

Are you missing someone? Yes...My Granny

Do you have a tattoo? Yes

Do you still watch cartoons on Saturday mornings? Not at all

Are you hiding something from someone? of course, I don't tell everything.

ARE YOU 18? + yep

WHAT IS THE WALLPAPER ON YOUR CELLPHONE? sky view of DTLA

DID YOU GET ENOUGH SLEEP LAST NIGHT? Not at all

FIRST THING YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THIS MORNING? How much I wanted to stay laying in my bed

WHAT DO YOU HAVE HANDY AT YOUR BEDSIDE? Cellphone / corn chips (snack)

GRILLED OR FRIED? Fried almost always taste better

WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE?

Everything about me is unique, I am one of a kind and so are you and them and they.

ARE YOU AFRAID OF THE DARK? Nope, I find comfort in a dark room or dimly lit

FAVORITE HANGOUT? My house...esp with my family and friends.

3 THINGS YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT? My God, My Mind, and music (serious withdrawals without it.)

FAVORITE SONG? It changes but at this very moment I can't stop listening to John Legend: Million 

WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF? Not being successful

ARE YOU A GIVER OR TAKER? Both but mostly a giver which has to make me a taker too because the universe will arrange everything you give to come back to you. 

WHAT ARE YOUR NICKNAMES? OMG: Nae-Nae, Nae, Tee, Moosie, Bay-Bay, Chiki, Chopi, Tay Tay, Punky, Nae bay, TaNae Nae ....so many LOL 

WHAT IS YOUR DADS MIDDLE NAME? N/A

WHATS YOUR MOTHERS MIDDLE NAME? N/A 

STUCK ON A DESERTED ISLAND & COULD TAKE ONE THING? A radio

FAVORITE T.V. COMMERCIAL? A debeers commercial from 2006 

WHO'S YOUR CELL PHONE PROVIDER? N/A

FIRST THING YOU'LL SAVE IN A FIRE? Pictures

Whats your favorite color? Red

WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU ALWAYS TAKE WITH YOU? Wallet/ smell good / makeup

WHAT DID YOU WANNA BE WHEN YOU WERE A KID? Singer/Actress/Doctor/ Teacher/Dancer/Waitress/Cashier/Model

WHAT DO YOU USUALLY DO WHEN THE CLOCK TURNS 11:11? nothing...should I be doing something?

THE COLOR OF YOUR BEDSHEET? Black

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT BEFORE YOU GO TO BED? My life

Reminder.....

To forgive everyone for everything. Not for them, but for you!

I'm Performing

Haven't hit the stage in a minute...glad to showcase once again. This coming Tuesday 9/23/14....Check me out!!

When....

When ... if I lived in the 70's ....this hot mama right here!!!

When I smashed on em and set all three on the first hand.

My precious little niece...Azzie. She's such a cutie!

When, Ladies....your left  brow is your favorite brow. It does what you want it to do everytime, no shenanigans.

When you're in NACHO Heaven...everything you can think of.

When your hand is that bad you can't even bid. NIL = nada but you get a 100 points tho if you avoid getting any books.

 

When your dream car really does exist. Can you get this for me God, please?

When I had forgotten all about Beetle Juice...this appears.

When everybody he knows shoulda been like NO! NEVER! this isn't even funny and it looks like a school pic.  

#MCM - Male Crush Monday

Who are you??   You gorgeous MAN...My Gawwd!!!

Culver City Stairs DRAMA

So... the drama...

I took my Cousin, My Mom, My Aunt and my God-son to the CCstairs. I'm PUMPED... I'm ready.

Climbing up, I feel great...

Just a minute or so from the top, I begin to feel unusually weak and tired. Mind you I climb this like three times in the sun...hot as heck. 

Not this time, I stop at the resting place and I couldn't catch my breath. I was drinking my water, trying to take deep breaths, NOPE. I was breathing so heavy, I decided to lay down but still couldn't catch my breath. I started getting light headed... I told my cousin Porscha who was casually admiring the view "Dude some thing's wrong" I said. "Here drink some of your water"
which I did and suddenly my vision changed, I felt like I wanted to throw up, I started to see people as if they were picture negatives but in color....CRAZY!!

I called out to Porscha again and said "Something is very very wrong" so she says "give me your phone, what's your password?" Mind you we left my Mom down one level lower because she was too hot. Porscha calls her but she doesn't have her phone so she calls my aunt who is walking the trail with the little man just so she's aware.


I started seeing black spots so I laid down and Unfortunately I PASSED OUT FOR LIKE some seconds. This is after climbing ONLY my first round. I was very upset about that, I was really looking forward to this work out.

I wake up to several people pouring water on me, in my hair on the back of my neck. Porscha was checking my pulse. A little boy named Andy was fanning me with his hat and Rosarita and Allison used their water to cool me down. My mom finally made it up to where we were.

Allison prayed for me and gave me her egg and bacon sandwich on toasted bread. These strangers were a God send to assist my family in helping me...definitely Angels.

Even a young lady named Julie even stopped and offered her water because she had extras.

Rosarita said I saw you and your skin color was turning palish green ...weird, right!

They stuck around until I felt better enough to walk down. I was still shaking, I couldn't stop.

They said it is definitely heat exhaustion.

I ate breakfast
I only drink water every second

I can't explain it.

Thank you Porscha, Mom, Allison, Rosarita and Andy oh and Julie and for everyone who stopped to make sure I was ok! My Angels, it could have been a lot worse.

The heat and I love the heat, the sun, summer...etc.  

I told Porscha, she should at least go to the top and she did.

This is some real stuff, I think I'm the most hydrated person I know.

The humidity was up, heat rises, the elevation didn't help. Be careful out there and drink lots of water and it's okay to take a break or...

work out really early or later in the evening where the sun isn't giving off as much heat.

Thank you Lord God that I'm good.