#MCM

Jason Lewis. Aka "Smith"

Sex and the City

He better not be one of those people who come out saying they're gay... The hurt I would feel... OMG! 

* Look good on the outside, better make sure you look even better on the inside because that's what matters most. 

Thought for Today: Happiness

   Happiness is a choice. 

When we get up in the morning you can choose to be happy and enjoy that day, or you can choose to be unhappy and go around with a sour attitude. It's up to you. If you make the mistake of allowing your circumstances to dictate your happiness, then you risk missing out on God's abundant life. You may be going through some tough times, or you may have major obstacles in your path way. Happiness is a decision you make, not an emotion you feel. So don't worry about the things you can't change. Keep a good positive attitude and keep blossoming right where you are. If you'll make a decision to stay faithful and content, at the right time God will change those circumstances. He'll get you out of those old weeds and put you in a better place. Choose to be happy . Choose to keep a good attitude. Remember, happiness is a choice you have to make. And even when you don't understand it, know that God is at work in you and working through you. Make up your mind that from this day forward, you are going to blossom where you are planted and enjoy every single day of your life.

~Joe Sanders

(TaNae's Dad)

CHiiQ RADio - Control you Anger at all cost!

Challenge: Be Nice! Control your Anger.

Smile thru others people bad Attitudes, bad days....negativity!

*Be peaceful

Universal Studios ...

With my amazing mother.

Famous USH shot. 

First we have to eat! Brazilian Food.

Fish Tacos, calamari. Sliders, and skewers.

Studio Tour

 Got the 3Ds

How about the view, which this photo does absolutely no justice for!

Fun Times

* Save money ..... go somewhere you've always wanted to go or you haven't beenin a long time but you've made up so many excuses for NOT going.

An EPIC LOVER!

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8) Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

 

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

 

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

 

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

 

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

 

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

 

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

 

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

 

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure. In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work and a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time. These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time. If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for. The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up. If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time. MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.




This is where it's at! He gears this towards men but Women should take cue as well. I love this. Hope my Future Hubby is ready for me. I strive to be this with or without a partner, I'm always open to improving myself ;-)



*I wish you to have an EPIC LOVAHHH!!

Toenail

How does this happen? Sorry Lady in Target restroom but Eeeh! I had to take a picture...And she's wearing sandals... BE SHAMELESS! 

*Man is a wingless animal with two feet and flat nails.

~Plato
(Oh Plato, the thing we say LOL)

Paleyfest - Television Festival in Hollyweird!

Got an opportunity to attend the Masters of Sex Panel discussion.

It's a Showtime series about a Doctor who is a real doctor by day and by night conducts this crazy sex experiment. Played by my Twilight's Aaro, Michael Sheen. 

Oh yeah, Based On a True Story too.

Got Moms and Auntie

That's my boy Dre. Crazyyy! 

This cast was pretty funny, they all had a great sense of humor. 

Two main characters. 

The audience bum rushed the stage ... Sounded like a stampede.

I have to say, this is was so much fun, I really enjoyed it. The cast was pretty awesome and they had the best sense of humor and kept us laughing.

They all seem to have a great sense of who their characters were and they also had this admirable enthusiasm for acting and developing this story. Hey, they got my attention.

Won't be tuning in tho...No Showtime on my telly, basic only. LOL

Check out Paleyfest http://media.paleycenter.org/paleyfest-2014-lineup/. It's going on until March 28.

* acknowledge the people behind the scenes.

#MCM - Male Crush Mondays

I can watch this man alllllll day and I have, once before. I like his chill factor, cute little red head self. A man that can cook, that's always attractive.

Chef BOBBY FLAY

* Food for the body isn't enough, you must have food for the soul.

Food for the body is not enough. There must be food for the soul.

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_food.html#DtrjCwUVe5MSZZhB.99

Food for the body is not enough. There must be food for the soul.

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_food.html#DtrjCwUVe5MSZZhB.99

Glad I know...

I don't know what this feeling is, but for some reason I went to sleep feeling like crap and woke up feeling even worse. I felt it before and I could never figure out the details. All I know is something in my life is not compatible, something has turned way left and I have to figure it out or at least keep my eyes open and ears alert so that when this foreign thing presents itself I know how to handle it. So I'm either getting rid of it or making it better. Period.

I'm so grateful for my intuition, my emotions, my gut feeling. I feel blessed to know when something is not right. I believe it's because I meditate that I can pick up on the negative or should I say those things or people that do not belong. *Trust your divine senses ....and DO NOT under any circumstances IGNORE it...ever! You don't have to act on it but please consider it.

CHiiQ RADio

GET THEM TEEFS TOOKEN CARE OF.

 

 

 

I'm just trying to paint a pretty picture. 

 

 

 

* Go to the DENTIST... and Smile.

 

 

 

Music that changed me FO' EVA!

Queen - Bohemian Rhapsody - I was just happy to know the words.

First Rap song I knew all of the words to. Warren G featuring Nate Dogg (RIP) - Regulators

I knew when I heard this I wanted to be a singer.

Mariah Carey - Vision of Love

Kiss made me fall in love with Prince.

Kirk Fanklin is my all time favorite Gospel Singer. His Albums got me thru soooo much.

* Embrace the music.

#TBT Throwwwwwwwback!

 Little Nae Nae

5 years old - Kindergarten

 

 

 

 

 

*Love the little boy/girl inside, because they still exist within you.

Just in case you ever get these two environments mixed up, this should make things a little bit clearer... I thought this was funny!

 @ PRISON You spend most of your time in a 10X10 cell
 @ WORK You spend most of your time in an 6X6 cubicle

@ PRISON You get three meals a day, fully paid for
@ WORK You get a break for one meal and you have to pay for it

@ PRISON For good behavior, you get time off
@ WORK For good behavior, you get more work

@ PRISON The guard locks and unlocks all the doors for you
@ WORK You must carry a security card and open all the doors yourself

@ PRISON You can watch TV and play games
@ WORK You could get fired for watching TV and playing games

@ PRISON You get your own toilet
@ WORK You have to share the toilet with people who pee on the seat

@ PRISON They allow your family and friends to visit
@ WORK You aren't even supposed to speak to your family

@ PRISON All expenses are paid by the taxpayers with no work required
@ WORK You must pay all your expenses to go to work, and they deduct taxes from your salary to pay for prisoners

@ PRISON You spend most of your life inside bars wanting to get out
@ WORK You spend most of your time wanting to get out and go inside bars

@ PRISON You must deal with sadistic wardens
@ WORK They are called 'managers' (Well not my manager(s)but you know the ones)

THERE IS SOMETHING SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE. 

*There are no rules against doing what you love. SO DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

Mai Tai's - Long Beach

Hanging out with my Girl!

Ayisha and I, long time friends 18 years and counting. Whoo!! 

Calamari on deck, Pomegranate Margarita.

Good ole Chicken Wings. My friend who works there sent us some shots, nice... But it looks like coolant and taste like whatever. Isha had the Chardonnay!

French Fries with herbs and Parmesan.

This place isn't too bad, they should designate a dance floor, seriously. 

Shout out to the bouncer who didn't make us pay that measly little $5. 

*appreciate your friends, be loyal to them and when they need you, show up. Let them vent and laugh with you, what else are friends for...

#MCM - Male Crush Mondays

Cutie Pies with Tats

 

 

 

Vanilla Ice

 

 

Travis McCoy

 

David Beckham

 

 

Carey Hart

 

 

Matt Barnes

 

 

 

* Speaking of Tattoos...Glad you covered up that Tweety one....eeeek!

Thought for Today : Keeping Yourself Happy In spite of your Problems.

Happy Sunday! From my Daddy!

    One of the most important keys to a better life is to keep yourself happy, rather than living to please everyone else.

  Certainly it is admirable to want to help as many people as possible, and it is good to reach out to others in need. Too often, we get out of balance. I have discovered that I can't make everyone happy, I can't meet everybody's needs. 

God does not want you to sacrifice your happiness to keep others happy. Let the truth be told some people don't want help or change. Don't let people manipulate you, you will not only have less stress and more time and energy, but I also believe you will be happier, and you will be free to fulfill the best plan that God has for you. Just remember I will be aware of the negative conditioned responses; I will train my mind to see the good. 

 I will relax and learn to go with the plan that God has for my life and my destiny. God has called all to be happy.

Have a bless Day !

Joe

CHiiQ RADio

The BREAK-UP...and you just want to move on!

                    What should you do?

 

 

*Hopefully you'll never have to find a rebound or unknowingly be a rebound because your love is wonderful and ain't going anywhere and neither are you.

Bus Stops

GREAT PLAY!!

Skeleton Key Pictures

My peeps and I with "The Man" himself.

Jaimyon Parker wrote, directed and starred in his very own production. ~hats off to him!

Mom staying true to the scene. Lol

Mom and Aunt Tracy here with one of the beautiful actresses. 

Another beautiful actress.

*I wish for you to have the car of your dreams so you don't have to deal with metro and bus stop madness, unless you choose too... Public transportation by choice.