This is for the women who don’t give a f**k.

 The women who are first to get naked, howl at the moon and jump into the sea.


The women who drink too much whisky, stay up too late and have sex like they mean it.

The women who know they aren’t sluts because they enjoy sex, but are human beings with a healthy sexual appetite.

The women who will ask you for what they need in bed.

This is for the women who seek relentless joy; the ones who know how to laugh with their whole souls.

The women who speak to strangers because they have no fear in their hearts.

The ones who wear “night make up” in the morning or don’t own mascara.

The women who know their worth, who plant their feet and roar in their brilliance.

The women who aren’t afraid to tell a man to get the f**k out of her heart if he doesn’t honor her heart.

This is for the women who rock combat boots with frilly skirts.

The women who swear like truck drivers.

The women who hold the people who harass or wrong them with fierce accountability.

The women who flip gender norms and false limitations the bird and live to run successful companies giving “the man” a run for his name.

The ones who don’t find their success a compliment just because they have a vagina.

Women like Gloria Steinem who, when she was told, “We want a writer, not a woman. Go home,” kept writing anyway.

This is for the women who drink coffee at midnight and wine in the morning, and dare you to question it.

For the women who open doors for men and are confident enough to have doors opened for them.

Who use “no” to be in service for themselves.

Who don’t give a damn about pleasing the world, and do sweetly as they wish.

For the superheroes—the single moms who work three jobs to make it. I salute your resilient, cape-flapping, ambitious selves.


This is for the women who throw down what they love, and don’t waste time following society’s pressures to exist behind a white picket fence.

The women who create wildly, unbalanced, ferociously and in a blur at times.

The women who know how to be busy and know how to plant their feet in the earth and get grounded.

These are the women I want around me.
By Janne Robinson

**I hope you find your happy**

Relationship Lottery!

Relative to a partner in crime, I'd watch paint dry with the right person. That's the true test of absolute compatibility. If you can have fun doing that, you've won the relationship lottery.

Hassan Pérez: ...or one watching tv on the couch and the other laying across the same couch reading with his/her head on the tv viewer's lap. No words said because communication at the right level can sometimes transcend words.

TaNae Sanders: I love it...Comfortable silence right.

Hassan Pérez: Exactly. Like a nice pair of trusty jeans....

TaNae Sanders: Yes fresh from the laundry with all its rips and wear & tear.

Hassan Pérez: ...but nothing feels better because nothing fits better.

TaNae Sanders : And you keep them forever. 

Hassan Pérez : No matter what....

TaNae Sanders: NO MATTER WHAT!

Hassan Pérez: ...and you always seem to find a reason to wear them, no matter the occasion, no matter the season. 

TaNae Sanders : Even if you haven't washed them in days maybe even weeks. 

Hassan Pérez : And everyone else is "dressed up," with your jeans you still show up. 

TaNae Sanders: ......and show off, because you feel like you are draped in cashmere silk. 

Hassan Pérez : but so much better because soft silk shreds while soft jeans last through all weather 

TaNae Sanders : Rain, sleet or snow 

Hassan Pérez:  and, of course, breezy, sunny days and warm, moonlit nights 

TaNae Sanders:  They're always your "Go-To" even in the midst of a bunch of others.

 Hassan Pérez : Especially since you don't have to go to because they're already there.

Deeeeeeeeeeep!! 

Lil. Impromptu dialogue poetry thingy thing with my buddy. 

* may you find joy in the unlikeliest of places.

When it’s different you can just tell

The little things start adding up, the small changes start becoming more obvious.

The excuses start coming more frequently.

And finally you realize…

You can’t force “it” to be something, you can’t force consistency, loyalty, or even honesty.

You can’t force them to keep their word or to communicate or to realize something special is in front of them.

You can’t force them to stay and fight, or to change their ways or to use their faith to conquer their fears.

It hurts falling for untapped potential.

So, after realizing all of this, you just get tired…

You’d rather play the game because it takes too much energy to change the standard.

You’d rather settle for good enough because it takes too much time to build something great. 

And you’d think that after all the hurt we’ve all been thru that we’d be better at being good to one another.

But we aren’t…

Instead, we run when it’s too right.

We get scared when they’re too sincere.

We make excuses instead of making the effort.

And that’s the cycle, so none of us ever get anywhere.

What we ask for is simple, but we don’t really believe we deserve it…

Because to us, “simple” means too good to be true.

We’re all so used to the pain, that if it doesn’t hurt, we can’t feel it.

If it isn’t full of drama, we don’t believe they care.

If there’s nothing to argue about, it’s not really love.

And that’s why I choose to move slow because more than anything,

I just want to get “it” right with somebody who’s just as tired of getting it wrong as I am.

We don’t need to be perfect to make it last.

All we need is effort, 100% from you and 100% from me.

Is it that easy? Yes!

What if just for today, you could allow everything to be alright? Today, have no agenda... All is possible...all is God. ~ Dr. Beckwith

Master the system

I know many people who are in student loan debt to the point of REDICKULOUSNESS. It's pretty wack!

Wouldn't it be pretty cool to challenge the system.

Meaning: If you want to be a doctor then you seek out education, however you see fit, be it in school, self teaching, one on one type thing from an accredited doctor...however you wish.

Then you go to a centralized testing facility where you prove that you are qualified to be a doctor.

A.K.A...


MASTERING

Can you Master the system?

This would alleviate debt, think of the movie "White men can't jump" she killed it on being self taught. She studied on her own, she didn't rely on some schooling....I know it was jeopardy but you feel me tho, right??

I've learned so many psychological terms and cooking techniques on my own. People could pay the testing facilities to test them. Of course depending on the amount of testing, the cost would be different.  

I think it could work.

Did you know...

A few things you might not know about me.

1) I have eczema. It was worse when I was younger. I would literally scratch the crap out of my leg until it bled and it would stick to my tights. Torcher to tell a kid "don't scratch" when it itch like hell and then all you can hear is your leg saying "scratch me - scratch meee - scratch meeeee - scratch meeeeeeee - scratchy scratchy-scratch, itchy, itchy" LOL I'm probably going to scratch it.

 

  2) What do I do for work? I'm in Commercial Property Management and have been for 7 years.

 

3) I already have the name(s) of my kid(s) boy and/or girl. First and Middle, just hope the father approves. Hopefully he doesn't have some jacked up last name.

 

4) I do not use microwaves ever...I have a cute red microwave that literally sits on my counter as decorations. For one, I hate what microwaves do to food, it's appalling and it's offensive to the raw nature of delicious and beautiful food...secondly, radiation is no good for you. Ever wonder why Russia banned microwaves?  

5) I've never kissed anyone on the first date. Not against it, if the chemistry permits it then I'll go for it but .... no one night stands either, that i'm against. No judgement tho....do what you want.  

6) I wear a size 9 1/2 shoe on my left foot and a 9 on my right, so I just get 9 1/2s. I get a size 10 in heels, just because it feels better.

  7) I absolutely hate porn...not even for religious reasons, I didn't even feel bad for watching it... it's just so annoying and so phony.  

 8) If I have to pick a part of my body to have plastic surgery on, it would be my eyes. I have hooded eyes like my Dad and they often feel heavy and when I lift them up with my fingers, the relief feels awesome.

9) Every tall guy 6'3 and up is automatically attractive to me... Nope it doesn't matter. Unless he smells bad but even then he's still...

10) I'm a sleepwalker/talker all that.

21st century dating

 Sometimes I come across a post that makes me understand what's happening in life that may confuse me till no end...ya know? It's something you just can't put into words. Like this post here:

**Dating in the 21st Century is by far one of the most ridiculous processes ever. People are so complicated. You must play games. You must lie. You have to act like you don't care even when you do. You must date multiple people to keep the attention of that one because it's generally just casual. You must be unavailable if you are too available people get turned off. You have to ignore calls even if you want to pick up. Essentially if you are a true lover, you have to resist everything that comes natural to you to play this "game" you idiots love to play. It changes everything for me to pretend like I don't care. I actually stop giving a !&@k. ~Unknown

Wow! That hits the nail on the head, the elements and genesis of these points of dating can get deep, it's almost unfathomable. Like what came first? Someone finally put it into words. I always ask, what the hell is going on????

If I may, break this down and say what I choose to typically do on my end:

1) People are so complicated:  ** I'm a woman, I'm complicated in the eyes of men at times but I'm an open book and I'm okay with emoting and loving. I understand it's all a risk and my actions need to be consistent.period. This uncomplicates things.

2) You must play games: I have to admit, I have played the game to sustain and maintain, however I ain't got time for that ANYMORE. The games are over and I've retired. I respect real love and people in general way too much to become a victim and give in to the fear of LOSING or being DISAPPOINTED. I'm not afraid of that. Eff Fear!

3) You have to act like you don't care even when you do: When my persistence and showing that I care is looked at as being THIRSTY, Houston we have a major problem. I remember when guys had BIG Balls and Guts to go after the woman of his dreams even when she said No, he had the confidence to say I can get her, I will get her. 70% of the time, he got her. FASSSTTT Forward to 2015, that isn't sweet and charming anymore... it's Thirsty and that's ridiculous. Fear has replaced emoting and showing the other that you really care. So who really cares or not care? I know there are those handful of people who are so scarred and bitter that showing how you feel is looked down upon. Not I ... Not I!

4) You must date multiple people: I understand this all to well because some fools aren't trying to take you seriously so you're not trying to put all of your emotional / attention / affection eggs in his/her one basket even tho you like them, but you're actually wanting to be in a relationship. Yeah something like that.

5) You have to ignore calls - Some people don't want you to be TOO available because that's too easy. So when you pull back some, they gravitate more. It's stupid, I know. It's ALWAYS the guys I'm not checking for that are the most in tuned and attentive. They call and are Consistent and persistent and the ones you actually like and show attention to well.... unless they can appreciate you for it, they fall off and be not so present until you fall back. Weird, I'm so sorry there are people out there like that. I really am. You don't need those girls/guys.

6) All that stuff kills the excitement, how can you be excited if you're always having to go against the grain. I say, be yourself and of course be smart and not foolish. Don't give so much of yourself to one person if they adhere to the above foolery! Do what comes natural, and don't be mad at those people for they know not what they do and we're just gonna leave it at that.  Their loss.

Good Luck!

When ....

When, I too do that dumb stare ...... LOL that stare is awful. You will especially find little kids doing this.

When he just couldn't be anything else for Halloween.  10 Points for creativity, 0 points for sanitation.

I actually have so many captions for this, gotta pull out my inner Dave/Kat/Martin/Rock etc.  I'll do ten: 

1) When your home girl is a cosmetology major and hasn't put her new skills to use on herself.

2) When your son brings his girl home to meet the parents and this is who he couldn't stop raving about for months.

3) When you and your girl need to shave, but she won't.

4) When she has a fine a** husband and you single and can't even find someone to like.

5) When she wins Miss California and you didn't.

6) When she has 100k followers on IG and most of her comments are "You're perfect!" "That's Bae" "Goals"!! Whaaaa??

7) When you haven't seen your best friend since High school and you run into him at the Grocery store.

8) When he calls in because his stomach is cramping. Wait huh??? LOL

9) When this is the new Standard of beauty.

10) When this is who your dude cheated on you with. Whyyyyy??

When it's a good thing your job doesn't include Integrals, derivatives, series expansions. They'd be especially screwed if it included respiratory mechanics, hemodynamics,

converting mg to g, g to mg, mg to mcg, and mcg to mg.

When he can make you feel like this.

When my AJ Pooh got a little boo boo....he was not happy. LOLOLOL!

When you really had no idea, until his scent his aura revived your senses. (Sigh)

When Billie Dee Williams was the man and he is still fine.

Beauty & the Beast

I blame my mother and my granny for the obsession. True Love...??

MCM - Male Crush Mondays

It's been a long time since I had an MCM.

I have to select Denzel Washington! 

To be honest, I was never googley eyed over him unless it was his acting skillz but I saw this and was like Dayyyum!!! He looks great and at 60. he grew out the Goatee....know I love me some scruff LOL.

I've always loved Denzel for his passion and his talent. How can he be denied, he is just great at what he does.

Cheers to this Beautiful Man!!!

Happy Belated Birthday!

Congrats on the cover of GQ!