What I find really sexy about men!

SEXY MAN 

 HANDS - Clean, SHORT Clean nails, somewhat soft looking, a little TLC goes a long way.

GRAY HAIRED MEN - I don't know what it is, but it's sooo attractive.

Perhaps it's a reflection of age, which could be wisdom...idk.

It's Sexy!

 

BRACES -  Especially if you're over 30...it's so HOT!!

HANDS on the FACE KISS - Do that every single time, it's romantic, it's endearing, it's just sexy! You should never not do that.

SCRUFF! - I love a scruffy man. But, wait but there needs to be a bit of grooming with the scruff. Don't just let it sprout weeds. 

TALL MEN - For some reason, just because you're tall I still find you HOT. Then I have to come back to reality and say "Girl....He is only height!"  LOL

CLEAN SNEAKERS - You could be like on some I just rolled out of bed or I'm working on the car today outfit but if you have on a fresh pair of sneakers, SEXY! Then I'm like "the lounge look is intentional." I never had a boyfriend who didn't wear fresh kicks, ever.

FRESH OUT OF THE SHOWER SMELL - I'm not huge on cologne and men smother themselves with it and in my mind I'm just like "Dayyyyuumm" Sinuses start acting up. Not this girl. I'd rather you smell like soap. Don't get me wrong, Cologne still does something to me but I prefer soapy.

CONSCIOUS MEN - This should be first, however this isn't in sequential order. I saw THIS clip (just one of many)and was brought to my feet. What if all men were like that....what if all black men (not necessarily thinks the same but is strong in his speech and thoughts). Ooooh!! 100% FIRE! SEXY! I think MX represent what a conscious man is, he has strong beliefs and understanding of life, he cares about his people and his drive is incredible and he is never apologetic for fighting for what he believes in. He speaks well,he reads books, he's educated (self or schooling) and not easily led astray. being conscious often times create discipline and respect for self and others and their woman, women in general and rules out weaknesses. He cares about how he represents himself. When a man offers enlightenment and starts dropping profoundness and knowledge....I'm instantly in heaven. THE BEST THING EVER!!

 FUNNY/SILLY - What's better than a sense of humor? What's better than a man making me ROFLMBO???? I love laughing and a funny man appears differently in my eyes almost all the time from the initial impression.  

GLASSES - NERD ALERT!!  I love hipsterish, nerdish, library-going, book -toting kind of guys.... looking the part is what makes it SEXY!!!

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My Boy Thay - Praying for him!

Thich Nhat Hanh

What a blessed soul. His book has changed my life in so many ways and on so many levels.

He is currently facing an illness and is getting very old. He had a brain hemorrhage and is under doctors care. I send forth my love and energy of healing and pray for his full recovery.

He has touched and changed so many lives and perhaps we have to accept that one day his time will come as shall all of ours and his work here on this earth was nothing short of wonderful and I will always remember him for that.

~Blessing and Healing Mr. Thay!  

Kool and the Gang

So I spent nearly a month trying to figure out this song. I heard it on the radio and I was jamming to it.

However, by the time I got home I had forgotten the words to look it up.

All I could remember was "You're the one, the one for me..." that was it...nothing. I didn't know the group name, if they were black, the era, not one single other word.

I would sing it to my peeps and nobody else could figure it out either.

Tho, highly frustrated, I was determined to find out what this song was.

So one day I was all in the KTG mix and one song kinda sounded similar to the one that I was looking for and there was that light bulb! Ahhhhh! It was Joanna.

Anyway, they are my favorite group right now. This changes but for now it's KTG time.

 #ILoveMusic

Orange is the new Black

I absolutely like this show, however I'm over the Girl on Girl sex scenes and kissing. I am a severely heterosexual woman and there's only so much I can take. I liked the show for its creativity and dialogue. The prison life can be very interesting and those are the most innovative people I know. They make nothing into something and they find ways around the prohibited. I'm an artist so this fascinates me but I'm not feeling it anymore, I guess, (shruggs) that is to be expected women falling for women because all the men are guards and they are not to be touched, although that rule has been broken, whatever, it's a show about women in prison. ~Bummed out

How can I be nice to you today??

How can I be nice to you today? I heard an author say this on Oprah. It caught my attention and I love the way it sounds, so much that it inspired me to write this blog.

My single hood seems to be on-going and at times I feel like it will never end but then something happens and somehow I believe again.

With having a steady person of interest in my life, I come across areas of relationshipness that I want to work on.

I have spent the last 2 years working on myself. I made a promised that I would not commit or allow someone else to commit to me if I wasn't a whole and conscious woman nor will accept that from someone else. 

What benefit would I be if I werestill harboring fear from previous relationships gone wrong, mistakes I've made, they've made and not practicing the art of forgiveness? Not very beneficial at all. I'm still wonderful in essence but I needed work and I'm never going to be perfect but I know I will make a fantastic life partner.

I have so much to offer, I astound myself. I'm rooting for the person who wins my heart because it's really a very special place to be and I want to wake up and say, how can I be nice to you today when I'm pissed off at him for something he did or when the flame dies down and you have to put forth effort and do those things you don't want to do... or how about, HATE doing. LOL

The errors of my ways lies in my wanting to give up when someone did not measure up or when they didn't show promise right away. Yes that's how I've been til this very day, but I've made a decision to not do that. I've been accepting and non-judgmental in so many areas, I think I can conquer this. I have an issue with someone who is WASTING MY TIME. I guess it's a fear or I can chalk it up to just not liking it. Don't waste my time.

I actually enjoy the process of getting to know someone and taking our time, it's so fun and beautiful. Learning the things about them that didn't come with a question. Sharing life stories, eating good food, walking around, going bike riding, sitting in the house in the dark lying on the floor with your legs intertwined, and the only light is the moon light and street lights shining through the window... listening to music and not saying anything and every now and then a kiss on the shoulder or hand or cheek or where ever is placed, running your fingers across his head, just some romantic gestures and things that are precious. I know I'm going a little off subject but that creates a physical connection that doesn't always involve sex. Sex, that's easy and can be done with anyone, anywhere, at anytime... but you can't reach down into the depths of someone and feel their love and connect with their inner peace, embrace their spirit.

To have some one who gets it and who is just as willing to get it right... meaning whose list of goals for the day has "How can I be nice to her/him today?"  ..... MAN! that's priceless.

Let's go on a date!!!

How I see me may not be how you see me...

I have been on the natural hair journey for the past 4 years and finally all of the relaxer is gone, never to return.

When I say natural, I mean without chemicals, perms/relaxers, but using organic and real natural ingredients. I still wear braids and I will wear a weave, but my real hair is natural and actually more healthier.

 

My natural hair has indeed been a challenge. I was so used to straight hair, easy to comb thru, washing it took like 10 minutes...NOW... no I have come to terms that, that isn't how my hair works and I'm okay with that.

Washing: Literally takes me about 30 - 45 minutes and I have to do it in the shower. I have to part my hair in sections of 4-6 to prevent a massive tangling situation.

THIS IS NOT ME >>>

Drying: Same thing....or I've let it air dry before.

Since I'm new to the natural hair world, I don't have a style that I like yet so I just press it out, grease it up. My hair is a thirst bucket for oil and stuff, it will suck every bit until it's dry.

I'll just throw it in a ponytail, claw or a braid. Oh yeah, if there's a hint of moisture in the air...the press out is gone.

Ever heard of "Shrinkage"...yes I have that. My hair is very kinky and can be course if I slack on my oiling it... that's when your hair does this (below). When it's wet and then dried, it's short but when you straighten it out, it's almost 75% longer than it's actual length. DO NOT be deceived by Shrinkage.

I have to say that going natural is the most liberating thing I've ever done for my appearance, for my pride, for my health, my self worth. It feel's good not to conform. I feel much more beautiful being myself and there are women who are in the same boat and we love who we are.

I do highly encourage women to put down the creamy crack, yes it makes our hair manageable, but it strips it of it's natural oils and protein (That's Not Good) I know, I did it for almost 20 years + it's not good for your health.  I did holistic research for many years and honestly if you can't eat it, it doesn't belong on your skin/ scalp/hair....IJS. That's in another life time for many people. You can use natural products that are much more healthier.





* Love this: I wish you could see your beauty from my view....it's breathtaking.

Don't sleep on Anne Shirley

I watch this every single morning while I'm getting ready for work and I love it!


Anne of Green Gables

It's so refreshing

:-)

Things You Might Not Know About Me

Whats your middle name? TaNae ..ha ha 

How big is your bed? Queen

What are you listening to right now? Kool and the Gang

What are the last 4 digits in your cellphone number? Uhmm NO!

What was the last thing you ate? Chicken Gyro salad

Last person you hugged? My Aunt Tracy

How is the weather right now? Beautiful  - 86 degrees

Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? One of my tenants

What is the first thing u notice in the opposite sex? Height

Favorite type of Food. Greek/Sushi/Indian/Jamaican/Cuban

Do you want children? Absolutely

Do you drink? water? Yes  Wine? Yes

Ever get so drunk you don't remember the entire night? No

Hair color? Brown

Eye colour? Brown

Do you wear contacts/glasses? Yes, I wear both

Favorite holiday? Thanksgiving...Family/Food/Laughter - can't beat that!

Favorite Season? Summer...I'm from Cali, the Sun is all I know.

Have you ever cried over a girl/boy? Oh man have I ....balling crying, can't get out of bed.

Last Movie you Watched? Frankie and Alice starring Halle Berry

What books are you reading? Fifty Shades Darker and getting ready to buy my new book FEAR by Thich Nhat Hanh

Piercings? Yes (3) in each ear...used to have my nose pierced but I'm out with the old.

Favorite Movie? Shag The Movie (chic Flick)

Favorite college football Team? Don't have one

What were you doing before filling this out? On my way home

Any pets? No pets  

Dogs or cats? Nope...allergic to cats

Favorite Flower? Love orchids

Have you ever loved someone? Most definitely

Who would you like to see right now? My nephew Emmett, I've only seen him once

Have you ever fired a gun? yes ...gun range

Do you like to travel by plane? I love flying

Right-handed or Left-handed? right

If you could go to any place right now where would you go? Almafie Coast

Are you missing someone? Yes...My Granny

Do you have a tattoo? Yes

Do you still watch cartoons on Saturday mornings? Not at all

Are you hiding something from someone? of course, I don't tell everything.

ARE YOU 18? + yep

WHAT IS THE WALLPAPER ON YOUR CELLPHONE? sky view of DTLA

DID YOU GET ENOUGH SLEEP LAST NIGHT? Not at all

FIRST THING YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THIS MORNING? How much I wanted to stay laying in my bed

WHAT DO YOU HAVE HANDY AT YOUR BEDSIDE? Cellphone / corn chips (snack)

GRILLED OR FRIED? Fried almost always taste better

WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE?

Everything about me is unique, I am one of a kind and so are you and them and they.

ARE YOU AFRAID OF THE DARK? Nope, I find comfort in a dark room or dimly lit

FAVORITE HANGOUT? My house...esp with my family and friends.

3 THINGS YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT? My God, My Mind, and music (serious withdrawals without it.)

FAVORITE SONG? It changes but at this very moment I can't stop listening to John Legend: Million 

WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF? Not being successful

ARE YOU A GIVER OR TAKER? Both but mostly a giver which has to make me a taker too because the universe will arrange everything you give to come back to you. 

WHAT ARE YOUR NICKNAMES? OMG: Nae-Nae, Nae, Tee, Moosie, Bay-Bay, Chiki, Chopi, Tay Tay, Punky, Nae bay, TaNae Nae ....so many LOL 

WHAT IS YOUR DADS MIDDLE NAME? N/A

WHATS YOUR MOTHERS MIDDLE NAME? N/A 

STUCK ON A DESERTED ISLAND & COULD TAKE ONE THING? A radio

FAVORITE T.V. COMMERCIAL? A debeers commercial from 2006 

WHO'S YOUR CELL PHONE PROVIDER? N/A

FIRST THING YOU'LL SAVE IN A FIRE? Pictures

Whats your favorite color? Red

WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU ALWAYS TAKE WITH YOU? Wallet/ smell good / makeup

WHAT DID YOU WANNA BE WHEN YOU WERE A KID? Singer/Actress/Doctor/ Teacher/Dancer/Waitress/Cashier/Model

WHAT DO YOU USUALLY DO WHEN THE CLOCK TURNS 11:11? nothing...should I be doing something?

THE COLOR OF YOUR BEDSHEET? Black

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT BEFORE YOU GO TO BED? My life